Comments on: Ripping Off The Bandage And Moving On… http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on Thoughts and observations as I work on my business and find new ideas to increase my profits... as well as the occasional off-topic ramblings by me, Carmen Maranon, "The Marketing Chick." Fri, 21 Nov 2008 09:45:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Mark http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-22146 Mark Thu, 01 May 2008 05:22:08 +0000 http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-22146 Hi Carmen, Wow sorry to hear that a few mean people are causing you grief. You know it is serious when your doctor says to try meds. My dad used to say someone was "driving him to drink," so to speak. Same idea. If it makes you feel any better you are not alone. Most of the big name marketers can tell you they wen through this same thing. One very famous guy recently said on a video that he has someone else screen his emails so he does not have to read anything negative. He does that because it was causing him to be way bummed out. Try to keep a few things in mind when this happens. One is, everybody who is sane loves you and appreciates you a lot. That's a very big crowd I'm sure. Two, Wayne Dyer says, what people do to you is their karma, how you react is your karma. You don't have to catch a ball just because someone throws it to you. Three, here is an article from problogger that might have some helpful info for ya. http://www.problogger.net/archives/2008/04/19/how-to-deal-with-negative-comments-on-your-blog/ Keep smiling, Mark Hi Carmen,

Wow sorry to hear that a few mean people are causing you grief. You know it is serious when your doctor says to try meds. My dad used to say someone was “driving him to drink,” so to speak. Same idea. If it makes you feel any better you are not alone. Most of the big name marketers can tell you they wen through this same thing. One very famous guy recently said on a video that he has someone else screen his emails so he does not have to read anything negative. He does that because it was causing him to be way bummed out. Try to keep a few things in mind when this happens. One is, everybody who is sane loves you and appreciates you a lot. That’s a very big crowd I’m sure. Two, Wayne Dyer says, what people do to you is their karma, how you react is your karma. You don’t have to catch a ball just because someone throws it to you. Three, here is an article from problogger that might have some helpful info for ya.

http://www.problogger.net/archives/2008/04/19/how-to-deal-with-negative-comments-on-your-blog/

Keep smiling,

Mark

]]> By: WaltDe http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-462 WaltDe Fri, 01 Sep 2006 14:35:20 +0000 http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-462 Keep up the great work on your blog. Best wishes WaltDe Keep up the great work on your blog. Best wishes WaltDe

]]> By: Carmen http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-306 Carmen Mon, 01 May 2006 03:55:15 +0000 http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-306 Christy: Thank you for your kind message! You know, I never thought about that... a blacklist of abusive people online. I wish I could share my list of "people to never accept as clients again," because I would not wish this kind of treatment on my enemy. Fortunately, we have Marvin :D (You can subscribe to his "secret" newsletter at http://www.secretagentreports.com) Shama: I found myself feeling caught between a rock and a hard place when I received abusive messages from a small number of "customers"... but now I've come to accept that these people do not belong on my customer list (or yours). The customer is NOT always right *AND* payment for your product or service DOES NOT give them permission to treat you badly or threaten your family. Thank you SO MUCH for being here! ~ Carmen Christy: Thank you for your kind message! You know, I never thought about that… a blacklist of abusive people online. I wish I could share my list of “people to never accept as clients again,” because I would not wish this kind of treatment on my enemy. Fortunately, we have Marvin :D (You can subscribe to his “secret” newsletter at http://www.secretagentreports.com)

Shama: I found myself feeling caught between a rock and a hard place when I received abusive messages from a small number of “customers”… but now I’ve come to accept that these people do not belong on my customer list (or yours). The customer is NOT always right *AND* payment for your product or service DOES NOT give them permission to treat you badly or threaten your family. Thank you SO MUCH for being here!

~ Carmen

]]> By: Carmen http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-305 Carmen Mon, 01 May 2006 03:23:25 +0000 http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-305 Chris: Yes, that's EXACTLY it! Emotional vampires... hiding behind computer monitors. And believe me, my appreciation for mail filters and block lists is growing at the speed of light! Thank you for your kind words and positive thoughts! John: While overcoming this ordeal, I *have* found myself appreciating much more, the wonderful people I'm crossing paths with online! Thanks for being here :) ~ Carmen Chris: Yes, that’s EXACTLY it! Emotional vampires… hiding behind computer monitors. And believe me, my appreciation for mail filters and block lists is growing at the speed of light! Thank you for your kind words and positive thoughts!

John: While overcoming this ordeal, I *have* found myself appreciating much more, the wonderful people I’m crossing paths with online! Thanks for being here :)

~ Carmen

]]> By: Carmen http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-304 Carmen Mon, 01 May 2006 03:15:07 +0000 http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-304 Marvin: Alright... now every time I hear the 007 theme song, YOU KNOW I'll associate it with Marvin Haycock and his Secret Agent Reports! Thanks for the chuckle :D Julie: Don't worry, giving up is NOT an option! Thank you so much for your words of encouragement! Please don't let this be the last time you post here, okay? ~ Carmen Marvin: Alright… now every time I hear the 007 theme song, YOU KNOW I’ll associate it with Marvin Haycock and his Secret Agent Reports! Thanks for the chuckle :D

Julie: Don’t worry, giving up is NOT an option! Thank you so much for your words of encouragement! Please don’t let this be the last time you post here, okay?

~ Carmen

]]> By: Carmen http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-303 Carmen Mon, 01 May 2006 03:05:10 +0000 http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-303 Hi everyone! First and foremost, I want to express my most sincere gratitude for all the kinds words, support and encouragement you've given me... You guys are the greatest! THANK YOU! Kathleen: What you said is very true, and I appreciate you posting your thoughts! (But, ME? Visible? Who woulda thunk?!) Nancy: Yes, the "delete key" as well as message filters and block lists are my new best friends! I hope you're seeing less negative messages these days... thanks for writing, and be careful! ~ Carmen Hi everyone! First and foremost, I want to express my most sincere gratitude for all the kinds words, support and encouragement you’ve given me… You guys are the greatest! THANK YOU!

Kathleen: What you said is very true, and I appreciate you posting your thoughts! (But, ME? Visible? Who woulda thunk?!)

Nancy: Yes, the “delete key” as well as message filters and block lists are my new best friends! I hope you’re seeing less negative messages these days… thanks for writing, and be careful!

~ Carmen

]]> By: Shama http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-302 Shama Sun, 30 Apr 2006 05:05:36 +0000 http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-302 Hi Carmen, Why bother with 'sick' people who obviously have no self-esteem. Otherwise they won't be sending you such trashy emails. Never allow such people to 'victimize' you. You are as good as you think you are. You create the best within you and always know that. You obviously have helped many more people with your online business so why let such people as those that send you these emails bother you. Keep on touching people's lives as you do, Carmen and be strong and courageous enough to ignore anything that is negative. Shama Hi Carmen,

Why bother with ’sick’ people who obviously have no self-esteem. Otherwise they won’t be sending you such trashy emails.

Never allow such people to ‘victimize’ you. You are as good as you think you are. You create the best within you and always know that.

You obviously have helped many more people with your
online business so why let such people as those that send you these emails bother you.

Keep on touching people’s lives as you do, Carmen and be strong and courageous enough to ignore anything that is negative.

Shama

]]> By: Christy http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-301 Christy Sat, 29 Apr 2006 22:51:09 +0000 http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-301 Carmen, Marvin's post summed it up. You really do rock, and I get inspired whenever I visit your websites. (Marvin - how do I get on this secret list?) There are black lists for known spammers, are there any resources to post and track abusive people online? Or just report them to Marvin. :-) Concering the human side of being a professional: I hope that NO ONE ever again is made to feel like they can't talk about what kind of abuse is coming their way. Carmen, you can overcome this evil with good, I know something will break open because of your experience and how you've broken the silence. God bless you, I mean that sincerely. Christy Carmen,

Marvin’s post summed it up. You really do rock, and I get inspired whenever I visit your websites. (Marvin - how do I get on this secret list?)

There are black lists for known spammers, are there any resources to post and track abusive people online? Or just report them to Marvin. :-)

Concering the human side of being a professional: I hope that NO ONE ever again is made to feel like they can’t talk about what kind of abuse is coming their way. Carmen, you can overcome this evil with good, I know something will break open because of your experience and how you’ve broken the silence.

God bless you, I mean that sincerely.

Christy

]]> By: John Langston http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-300 John Langston Sat, 29 Apr 2006 16:47:31 +0000 http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-300 Hi Carmen. Great to hear from you again; very saddened to read how you have been treated, and how it has affected you. We live in a sinful, and evil world, but there are also many lovely people out there. Good to see you have come through it, and now have support from other colleaques. Greetings, John Hi Carmen.
Great to hear from you again; very saddened to read how you have been treated, and how it has affected you. We live in a sinful, and evil world, but there are also many lovely people out there. Good to see you have come through it, and now have support from other colleaques.
Greetings, John

]]> By: Chris http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-299 Chris Sat, 29 Apr 2006 12:53:22 +0000 http://blog.marketingchick.com/2006/ripping-off-the-bandage-and-moving-on#comment-299 Dear Carmen, I was really moved by your post. It is an unfortunate fact of the world that there are a few people out there who take advantage of Internet based communication to do things they would never dream of face-to-face. I know from reading your material that you ARE all the positive things that you write you are. So, don't waste time on these people. They are emotional vampires who will drain your positive energy and be perversely happy that they did so. All you can do is to feel sorry for them but ignore them and move on. If you don't answer their communications they will tire and move on to some other unfortunate. Best wishes, Chris (A professional and academic marketer) Dear Carmen, I was really moved by your post. It is an unfortunate fact of the world that there are a few people out there who take advantage of Internet based communication to do things they would never dream of face-to-face. I know from reading your material that you ARE all the positive things that you write you are. So, don’t waste time on these people. They are emotional vampires who will drain your positive energy and be perversely happy that they did so. All you can do is to feel sorry for them but ignore them and move on. If you don’t answer their communications they will tire and move on to some other unfortunate.

Best wishes,
Chris (A professional and academic marketer)

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